Love in all its angles, may seem like a wonderful set of new glasses that makes your eyes see clearly of what goodness the world has got to give. But it takes a lot more than just rose-colored glasses to find out what love really means.
An array of almost-relationships, too many blown up expectations, blistered fingers from single-handedly picking up too many broken pieces of a heart that has once again been shattered, scattered. Too many disappointments, people failing you left and right. Your friends, whom you can no longer call “friends” have betrayed you a little bit closer to a hundred – you stopped trusting. You’ve stopped giving your heart, and are more reserved now more than ever because – “they’ll break my heart the moment that I give them the chance to do so, why bother giving it to them anyways?” and then slowly, without meaning to, you started to fear.
But then again, Christ gave and loved, and so love, we’ll try again – one more time.
We’ll try again one more time, because blisters don’t define you. Your scars and all the ugliness because of loving too much only shows how much you’ve given. And there’s nothing more beautiful than a heart that gives.
We’ll try again one more time, because love is too good to not be given. This world needs all the love we can give. There’s just so much evil here, that we can’t follow what it wants to happen by choosing not to love. We can’t just give up – can we?
We’ll try again one more time because we were given chances when we didn’t even ask for it, let alone deserve it. Love, doesn’t even deserve a second chance they say. But we didn’t deserve any chance in this life, we were bound to death, we were supposed to be given away to hell. Yet here we are, living lives free and joyfully. Because we were given the chance we did not deserve, and guess what fueled The Giver to give. Love.
We’ll try again one more time, because we live not for ourselves but for Him. We’ve all heard it in sermons, we’ve read it a couple of times ourselves – we are identified as His disciples through the way that we love (John 13:35). This is a verse that follows “As I have loved you” – when we choose to love despite circumstances, we show ourselves to be disciples of Christ because we are following His footsteps, His example of love.
We’ll try to love again, not because we have to but because we can. And we can, not because we are loving people but because we have a loving God who compels us to love others in the same way that he loves us.
It matters not if people deserve the kind of love we give them, because His name is glorified when we love beyond our capabilities. We can’t just say we’ve given too much love, if love is all we give, there’s no such thing as too much.
We’ll try again, because it’s shows Christ at work. It makes you be more Christ-like, more gentle, more kind, more of what He is. And that’s what He wants. Loving others, putting them above our needs, even when the world tells us we have to love ourselves first, may mean too much sacrifice, or self-denial, but it promises greater joy. The fulfillment, the feeling to have loved others without expecting them to reciprocate the kind of love we give.
We’ll try again, because even when people fail us, God never will. And loving imperfect people makes you want to hold on more tightly to the giver of love who won’t ever stop from loving you even when you don’t deserve it.
But these things, Aren’t they all too much?
Humanly, the strength we need in loving people outweighs the strength we need to lift a 10-ton truck from the ground floor of the Empire State to its rooftop.
We need the kind of strength that God has.
And that strength can only be grasped and applied when we look on the perfect example of enduring love, perfect and selfless love, when The Lamb of God died on the cross, was buried, rose again, and appeared to show that He is truly alive. It did not only demonstrate love, but also demonstrated strength fueled by love. And is not afraid to be in pain, is not afraid of rejection, is not afraid of suffering, is not afraid of not being able to receive sufficiently the amount of love it so wants to receive. Like the kind of love the shore gives the ocean, no matter how many times it rushes away – it comes back to a wide set of open arms ready to accept it again.
Because with the kind of love that God has given, we’d be content with the love we receive. Overflowing, sufficient for this life, and the next.
The kind of love that sets us free from all our fears, and all our anxieties. The kind of love that is not only sure, but is solid. The kind of love that’s not only there, but is felt. The kind of love that stays.
The reason why we love is because we are driven by the same love that died for our very own undeserving souls. So we can try again, we can love.
And when the time comes that mundane love fails us yet again, just like how Christ’s love is new every day – as endless as His patience is, and as enduring His love is – we’ll try one more time. And we’ll love like Him this time.
Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.
-1 John 4:7-12 NIV
Fear love no more –
This is how love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment: In this world we are like Jesus. There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.
– 1 John 4:17-18 NIV
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